A couple days ago Sassafras asked me to pineapple her hair for bed. This is the process of putting her twists atop her head with a binder so she can get her satin bonnet on. Anyway, I did and she started prancing around saying, "Look I'm a Vegas showgirl!". After laughing hysterically - gotta admit tis funny - I had two thoughts. First was, where in heaven's name did she learn about Vegas showgirls? Secondly, over YOUR dead body cause momma will take you out before you look to Vegas for employment.
After the verbal attacks she's endured to her physique the past 6 mos. or so I almost wanted to applaud. My girl has such a firm understanding of her worth. Since the time she was tiny I would hold her up in front of the bathroom mirror exclaiming - "Who is the pretty girl in the mirror?" "Who's a beautiful girl?" She would grin from ear to ear and when old enough would, of course, answer "ME!". "That's right precious girl - you", I would reply.
Now, before you think I only praise her for her appearance let me make myself clear. The reason I do emphasize her appearance, along with her amazing personality traits, is because I know full well that my girl is not the American standard of beauty. I know, many who know her will argue with me. I agree she is beautiful. But, go into any store with a magazine rack right now and tell me you see any cover girl with skin the color of my girl and natural hair, or in her case this week one with yarn twists including blue yarn - it's called a protective style, by the way. Not a chance. What you'll find are covers highlighting articles titled, "Fuss Free Hair - 5 best summer styling secrets" or "No more frizz! Smooth, Pretty Hair". Let me just stop there. Smooth pretty hair? Really. I know I know - some people will say, but I have curly hair or my daughter has curly hair - she has that "problem" too. There are curling irons to straighten out those caucasian locks, if one so desires - this doesn't work on my girlies. Even if through chemical processing and ironing etc. it was relatively "straight" it would never blow in the wind or flip over her shoulder. She was trying to blow her twist out of her face the other day - like some of her friends do - and, of course couldn't.
So, I've decided I will not be renewing my subscriptions to these magazines when renewal time comes around and will instead be getting magazines with cover girls who mirror my cover girls. I won't be inviting in possible attacks on their self worth and their dad and I will continue to tell them how gorgeous they are, along with how amazing they are, how smart they are, how confident they are, how loving and caring and generous and funny and clever and sweet and brave and resourceful and most of all how much God loves them exactly the way they are no matter what.